How to talk to your partner about bladder sensitivity

How to talk to your partner about bladder sensitivity

Approach the subject rather than waiting for your partner to ask you about it. Here’s how to start the conversation

Be the first to bring it up

Approach the subject rather than waiting for your partner to ask you about it. If you’ve been behaving in a way that’s out of character, the truth may come as a relief to your partner, who may have been jumping to worse conclusions.

How to steer the conversation to bladder weakness

Your partner may have noticed or commented on your frequent trips to the bathroom, or your reluctance to join him in certain activities, so this is a great place to start. For example, you could introduce it by saying: ‘I’ve been needing to go to the bathroom much more than I used to and that’s why I’ve been avoiding going to the cinema or on long car rides as I can’t get to the toilet easily.’ This will help you explain your change in behaviour, while letting him know how bladder sensitivity is affecting you. 

Go slowly

Although your partner will most likely be supportive, it’s important to remember that he may have no idea what you’re going through and why. Tell him about your symptoms, describe how they’re affecting your life, and their impact on your relationship.

Let him know how common bladder sensitivity is

Help your partner understand how, why and who experiences bladder sensitivity and how common it is among women. Show him our 4 myths about bladder weakness. Reassure him that you’re managing your sensitive bladder with specific incontinence products, such as liners, pads and pants, and explain that you are working on improving your bladder sensitivity.


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Keep talking

Encourage your partner to ask questions and raise any concern so you can work together to deal with bladder sensitivity. This means you have someone to talk to about your condition, and you have the practical support you need.

How talking helped us

Claire, administrator, 35: ‘It’s been nine years and I don’t keep my sensitive bladder to myself anymore – now I have my husband and closest friends to turn to for support.’

Mary, cleaner, 44: ‘It’s taken me a while, but now I speak to my husband, family and my closest friends about my bladder sensitivity.’

Now talk to your doctor

Find out how to approach your doctor about your bladder weakness

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A problem shared is a problem halved. I brought it up with my husband by saying 'I think I need to go to the Dr's' We then went to the Dr's together and it was great to both get the info and he's been a great support ever since.

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I agree women with this problem should be able to talk about the subject and not feel embarrassed or alone with the problem. I have participated in the project for savvy for this problem and it has been surprising how many women suffer this and suffer in silence. Talk about it to you close friends and you will no doubt find out that some of them also suffer bladder sensitivity, it can be humour and uplifting and also a relief to find out you are not the only one.

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More people need to talk about this as it's a big help to have someone support you threw the embarrassing times

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I told my husband after keeping it to myself for years when we were going on a long haul flight. He was really helpful booking an aisle seat for me and since then he always reminds me to go to the loo at opportune times. He also looks out for toilets when we are out and about.

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I'm a very upfront kind of person so I told hubby about my several health problems on our first date. He wasn't put off although he often sighs and says "too much information dear" when I ramble on about my accidents lol. I think it's just like any other problem and a shared problem is half a problem - also you need to be able to laugh about it and take it with humour

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